WM Questions I want to ponder...

but don't have the time for!

1) You pull double shifts taking care of everyone else, yet you neglect yourself. What drives you to do this? Guilt that you're not spending enough time with your kids? Concern that you're falling behind in your career? List three reasons why you feel you can't slow down.


Now imagine you have to slow down. What would happen?

2) Write down a guilty-mom moment that still makes you cringe.


Now think about whether there were unexpected benefits for your child. For example, you son says, "All my friends mommies pick them up right after school. Why do I have to go to after-care?" Did he actually enjoy after-care? Make new friends? Try to find something redemptive that came from that moment.

3) What makes you feel guilty on a regular basis? Is it Evan's mom doing museum-worthy art projects with her kids while yours make do with a bucket of broken crayons? Is it leaving your child sick with a babysitter?



4) List three activities you most dislike doing with your kids. Dread supervising math homework? Resent driving them to karate on Saturday mornings?


Choose one activity that you could stop doing today.


Choose another activity you could get help with.

5) List three things you realistically could do to make your life easier at home.


What stops you from doing each of these things?

No take a hard look at your excuses. No money for help with housework? Is there something you could cut from your budget? Choose one of your lamest excuses and find a solution.

6)Imagine that all of yoru responsibilities are on hold for three hours. What would you do with that free time all to yourself?


How would it make you a better mom, partner, and employee?

7) Name someone you'd call in a crisis or someone who could help you get back on track if you drift off course.

8) Guess what? You've figured out where you can get three guilt-free hours (see 4 &5), why you need the time (see 6). Now commit to it. Get the person named in 7 to hold you to doing so. Go. Be guilt free.